It is funny, I never really thought about the afterlife much until John got ill. We were both raised Catholics but left the church when we got together since the church didn’t accept people that were divorced. I think in the back of our minds we both believed in some sort of Heaven but we didn’t talk about it.
John was a very logical, smart man. He was a Chartered Accountant (before his death they changed the name in Canada to Chartered Professional Accountant “CPA” and he hated that name). He worked a great deal with lawyers and other professionals that valued his intelligence and his dedication to his career. It was not a job to John but a way of life. He was one of those people that never worked a day in his life because he loved what he did.
While John was dying he would comfort while he held me. He kept telling me just to listen harder and he’d still be talking to me. He spoke with such calmness, so sure that we would be together again that I would stop crying.
One day he was in the hospital being treated for a massive infection that the hospital gave him and he started looking at the door. My daughter Amanda and I were with him at the time and I asked him what he was looking at. He replied, “your dad is here … he’s waiting for me”. Then a few minutes later he said that my dad had left and would be back later. He didn’t remember saying this to me later.
Just before John passed away I had changed his clothes, made him comfortable with the PSW that came to help me. He had been sedated for 10 days. I went to sit in the other room for a few minutes to talk to my daughter Laura and there was a loud knock. I went in to check on him, took his hand and he opened his eyes and died looking at me.
It has been over a year since he passed away and I know in my heart he is still with me and he’s waiting for me. He has shown me this by me finding the Valentine’s day card, or the email that he sent me years ago. Every once in awhile I catch a glimpse of him in the corner of my eye or I can smell him. He is doing everything he can to let me know that he is waiting for me. He also wants me to stop being sad and to live my life with joy and happiness in it. I know this with every fiber of my being. When my life is over we will be together again. Forever and all ways.